Discussion guide
For engaged couples preparing for sex
The following questions may be helpful in initiating some conversations about your current relationship and your expectations for your future together. Links will direct you to more information on these subjects.
Foundational:
If these questions have not been discussed prior to engagement, they should be addressed as soon as possible.
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Are we open to accepting the Church’s teachings about sex?
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Have we been respecting our boundaries, or putting ourselves in moments of temptation?
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How do we understand importance of channeling our sexual desires (aka "chastity") in our relationship now? In marriage?
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What past wounds do we need to address?
Openness to life:
It is suggested these questions be discussed about 3 - 6 months prior to your wedding date.
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How will the husband be involved in NFP, charting?
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Do we feel like God is calling us to seek or delay pregnancy at the beginning of our marriage?
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How many children do we hope to have in our family?
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Would we be willing to consider adoption, regardless of our ability to conceive?
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How would we respond to infertility? An unplanned pregnancy? A miscarriage?
Wedding night expectations:
Due to the more intimate nature of these questions, it is suggested to wait to have this discussion about a month before your wedding date.
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What are our overall expectations for sex in our marriage?
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What are our expectations for our wedding night?
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What are we most excited about?
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What concerns or fears do we have?